If humans wish to respect one another and be willing to understand each other, the following effective methods can be adopted. These methods are based on research from the fields of interpersonal communication, psychology, sociology, and cross-cultural understanding:
1. Practice Active Listening
It's not just about hearing what the other person says, but truly focusing on understanding their emotions and perspective.
Avoid interrupting, and repeat the key points (reflective listening) to show that you are genuinely listening.
2. Temporarily Set Aside Judgments and Biases (Approach with Curiosity)
Instead of asking, "Why do they think that way?", ask, "Why is this important to them?"
Avoid making assumptions—adopt the strategy of delayed judgment.
3. Create a Psychologically Safe Conversation Space
Foster an environment where people feel free to express themselves without fear of criticism.
Use phrases like, “I’d like to understand your perspective,” or “We might disagree, but I’d still love to hear your thoughts.”
4. Learn to Speak in “I” Language Instead of “You” Language
For example, saying “I feel confused” is less confrontational than “You’re not making sense.”
Use the four steps of Nonviolent Communication (NVC): Observation, Feeling, Need, Request.
5. Practice Role Reversal (Empathy Training)
Try putting yourself in the other person’s shoes—especially in conversations involving culture, belief systems, gender, etc.
This can be done through activities like theater, writing exercises, or group discussions.
6. Promote Education in Cross-Cultural and Diverse Perspectives
Through education systems, help people understand the existence of diverse values from a young age, reducing the mindset of “only one right answer.”
Encourage learning other languages and customs to increase understanding and tolerance.
7. Acknowledge That Admitting Ignorance Is a Form of Wisdom
Being willing to say, “I don’t understand, but I’d like to learn,” is the starting point for deeper understanding.
Vulnerability is a form of strength.
8. Build Shared Goals
When people share interests or tasks (such as team projects or community development), they are more likely to let go of preconceived notions and understand each other.
Finding what both parties care about becomes a bridge across divides.
Additional Perspective:
Misunderstandings and conflicts in human interaction often stem from preconceptions, projections, and defensive mindsets. If one is willing to train themselves to maintain an open attitude, ask questions, and test their assumptions, it can greatly improve mutual respect and understanding.